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Leadership, Solitude and Thinking

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When I came across this article it actually seemed like an oxymoronic title. But as I read it in detail, I was sold. As a writer, I am compelled to spend countless hours alone either thinking of ideas or actually converting those thoughts into readable form. Now, it turns out that the same approach is probably the best way for me to address my management style. My dad and mentor used to tell me not to discuss my problems with anyone who was not in a position to help me solve them. And he was right. He wanted me to think for myself and know who I am in any given situation. Turns out that’s an imperative trait for any leader.

Repost: BEN J. CHRISTENSEN favorite quotes from Solitude and Leadership: an article by William Deresiewicz | The American Scholar

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“solitude is one of the most important necessities of true leadership”

“what I saw around me were great kids who had been trained to be world-class hoop jumpers. Any goal you set them, they could achieve. Any test you gave them, they could pass with flying colors. They were, as one of them put it herself, ‘excellent sheep.’”

“excellence isn’t usually what gets you up the greasy pole. What gets you up is a talent for maneuvering. … Not taking stupid risks like trying to change how things are done or question why they’re done. Just keeping the routine going.”

“We have a crisis of leadership in this country, in every institution.”

“We have a crisis of leadership in America because our overwhelming power and wealth, earned under earlier generations of leaders, made us complacent, and for too long we have been training leaders who only know how to keep the routine going. Who can answer questions, but don’t know how to ask them. Who can fulfill goals, but don’t know how to set them. Who think about how to get things done, but not whether they’re worth doing in the first place. What we have now are the greatest technocrats the world has ever seen, people who have been trained to be incredibly good at one specific thing, but who have no interest in anything beyond their area of exper tise. What we don’t have are leaders.

What we don’t have, in other words, are thinkers. People who can think for themselves. People who can formulate a new direction: for the country, for a corporation or a college, for the Army—a new way of doing things, a new way of looking at things. People, in other words, with vision.”

“there are a lot of highly educated people who don’t know how to think at all.”

“what makes him [General David Petraeus] a thinker—and a leader—is precisely that he is able to think things through for himself. And because he can, he has the confidence, the courage, to argue for his ideas even when they aren’t popular.”

“true leadership means being able to think for yourself and act on your convictions”

“people do not multitask effectively. And here’s the really surprising finding: the more people multitask, the worse they are, not just at other mental abilities, but at multitasking itself.”

“Multitasking, in short, is not only not thinking, it impairs your ability to think.”

“You do your best thinking by slowing down and concentrating.”

“Leadership means finding a new direction, not simply putting yourself at the front of the herd that’s heading toward the cliff.”

“Once the situation is upon you, it’s too late. You have to be prepared in advance. You need to know, already, who you are and what you believe: not what the Army believes, not what your peers believe (that may be exactly the problem), but what you believe. How can you know that unless you’ve taken counsel with yourself in solitude?”

Stella Jean Fall 2014 Collection

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Stella Jean steals our hearts again with her Bold Patterns and Cultural Vibes. It is easy to see the influences from African and Asian Countries, and she manages to capture the strength of both continents while balancing it with the beauty that people overlook.

Straight-line silhouettes are balanced by cinched waists and thicker fabric still has the mobility of silk as the models glide down the runway. Any favorites #fashionfriendsofTenaciousM?

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I Choose to Follow My Dreams

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Happy Friday! Today seemed like a good opportunity to remind myself and my readers of the real TenaciousM!

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In most cases, I would confirm that I am definitely not a follower.  However, I recently found myself in the midst of some serious self-evaluation.  I wondered: “Am I really following my dreams or am I chasing them.”

As I look at the difference, to follow means that the dream is real and I own it.  But to chase a dream says that on some level I’m not really convinced that it’s obtainable.  As I follow dreams/goals that are decades or days old, I feel empowered to know that there is already a connection to that dream. For instance, I shared with a friend recently that I am going to Paris in April. There, the goal has been verbalized and now I follow my path to fulfilling that dream.  Although I have been to Paris several times, each time I visit increases the value of the first dream I had many years…

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Stop Waiting For Friday

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STOP WAITING FOR FRIDAY

I love this quote. It is a reminder that you can wait your life away… waiting for the stars to align, the perfect moment, better weather, a better someone or a life event to propel you forward. I say just jump! Waiting is for losers. Take that leap of faith and you will eventually find yourself in a better place and somewhere closer to your dreams.

Duro Olowu Fall 2014 RTW Collection

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Duro Olowu will hit the 10 year mark for his brand later this year. In that 10 years he has carved out a very distinct identity, one that is easily recognizable as unique to him season in and out. This Fall, Olowu presented a collection that was comfortable in it’s own skin. Every piece within was in some way a representative signature of the brand, from his bright prints to some sweeping mermaid skirts.

Fall 2014 was inspired by deco era furniture designer Elizabeth Eyre de Lanux and the Dada set—Man Ray, and Elsa Schiaparelli, who’s avante garde surrealist experimentation in the early 20th century have been widely emulated. Olowu’s own signature stamp lends itself perfectly to this inspiration. Enjoy!!

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WORD JONES

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Most writers will relate to the compulsion that can occur when you are writing. It can be ceaseless, day or night, you think of a line and have to write it down before the idea escapes you. It’s our addiction of sorts…

Word Jones

Nose open inhaling time
Your head and hands make contact and
Ignite the smoking mind
With a need
You deal a line to whomever wants a hit

Waking words inject rhyme
Trip in waiting rooms where
Junkies have no sleep lines to trace
Thoughts will always find you-
They clasp creative veins and constrict
Normal flow outside the high place

5 Times Tina covered The Beatles

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I will always love Tina Turner! #musicfriendsofTenaciousM enjoy!

5 Times Tina covered The Beatles.

No Bake Oreo Ice Cream Cake

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My weekend/Sunday has been extra crazy! So how does TenaciousM give stress an uppercut? You guessed it! Chocolate! Here’s an all-time favorite. #chocolatefriendsofTenaciousM enjoy!

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Ingredients
1/2cup hot fudge ice cream topping, warmed
1 tub (8 oz.) COOL WHIP Whipped Topping, thawed, divided
1 pkg. (3.9 oz.) JELL-O Chocolate Instant Pudding
16 OREO Cookies, chopped (about 2 cups), divided
12 vanilla ice cream sandwiches

Directions
WHISK fudge topping and 1 cup COOL WHIP in medium bowl until blended. Add dry pudding mix; stir 2 min. Stir in 1 cup cookies.

ARRANGE 4 ice cream sandwiches, side-by-side, on 24-inch-long piece of foil; cover with half the COOL WHIP mixture. Repeat layers. Top with remaining sandwiches. Frost with remaining COOL WHIP; press remaining cookies into top and sides of dessert. Wrap loosely with foil.

FREEZE 4 hours.

Ralph Lauren Fall 2014 RTW Collection

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As NYFW came to a close with some of the heavy hitters showing their fall collections, Ralph Lauren sent some of his best work down the runway. The color palette of winter whites, mauve and grey will grab your attention! They designed everything we want to live in for fall; including refined sweatpants, oversized knits and effortless evening wear. Hope you enjoy the collection as much as I did!

Ralph Lauren 2014 RTW

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Why Leadership Is About Dignity

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As most of my followers know, I am always looking for guidelines and information about leadership that make sense to me. I came across the following submission and had to share it. If you are a leader in your family, community or at work, I think you will gain some insight from this take on leadership and dignity. I know I did.

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Repost: Denise Restauri, Contributor
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“A bold new way of tackling poverty that’s about dignity, not dependence and choice, not charity.” When I first read that on Acumen.org, I thought beyond poverty. I asked myself, “If dignity is about being worthy of honor and respect, what role does dignity play in leadership?”

To find the answer, I went to three Acumen Global Fellows from the class of 2013 – three women in their 20’s who are the next generation of social impact leaders, a new kind of leader who sees the world as it is and knows she can be a part of the solution that creates lasting impact on the ground. A one-year fellowship, 10-12 individuals from all over the world spend two months in New York undergoing intensive leadership training, followed by nine months working with one of Acumen’s portfolio companies in India, Pakistan, East Africa or West Africa. It’s not about sitting around and talking about the problems, it’s about taking action. It’s about leading.

These three Fellows will share their stories with us over the next few weeks. They are from three different countries: United States, Japan and China. They had three distinct experiences. And they all had major learnings about leadership and dignity:

1) Recognize human dignity. Each one of these women started with a goal to recognize and support human dignity. None of them wanted to help people that they felt sorry for, but rather, be part of a solution that recognizes the dignity in all people. That’s empowerment.

2) Do what’s right, not what’s easy. All of them learned by doing, combining their hard skills with new lessons about how to build trust and support teams to have an impact on the ground. It wasn’t easy and sometimes they couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, but they kept moving forward with great integrity and intent.

3) Share the shining star. Each of them saw as their greatest lesson the need to collaborate with the people closest to the ground doing the unglamorous work of execution, day after day. It was not about being a shining star, proving what they could achieve, demonstrating their abilities. It always boiled down to their ability to listen to and learn from the teams they worked with and help them be shining stars.

4) Leadership is a muscle. Leadership is a muscle that needs to be trained and exercised in real life. The lessons they learned, how they overcame challenges, admitted to and fixed their mistakes – those learnings far outweighed the leadership lessons they learned from books.